Better By The Day

We've all been there. You want something in your life so badly you can't stand it.  You can't wait for it. You want it NOW!!!

So what do you do to get it NOW? You make decisions, that more times than not are wrong. Why? Because you have a false belief that it will move you closer to your goals. Let me save you lots of heartache and time. Here's how you know when the decisions you make towards your goals are on track and will bring fruit:

When it happens without warning or surprise. That's when you know you're on the right path.

Have you ever tried to force something to happen that you believed to be in your best interest? Have you made any of the following happen by forced measure:

• Made a purchase you don't really have the funds for?
• Made a comment to someone that you couldn't support or backup?
• Made a career decision that just felt forced but you did it anyway?

I can tell you from personal experience that I can check off every item above on my list of dumb things I've done in my pursuit of my intended path. This only ended in complete disaster on every count. I ended up in more debt than every before. I had to make concessions at my workplace for bad decisions. The list goes on and on.

The one thing I can tell you is that when events happen in your life without any effort is when you just know that you're on the right path.

• An unexpected layoff ends in a perfect job opportunity.
• Saving money on expenditures and only purchasing what naturally comes your way or is an obvious necessity provides financial stability.
• Asking your employer for a modified work schedule provides a less stressful day and better family life.

When life's events that you've wanted so badly come to  you effortlessly and without surprise is when they seem to be most certainly for your best good. Recently in my life I found myself experiencing something that I've wanted for months. When it happened there was no ticker-tape parade or gala event. It just happened. Something that I've wanted so badly for so long just happened. This of course has not happened for everything I have a longing for in my life. In looking back over my life I can see a pattern that the events that happen without incident are what should happen as if on some predetermined path of their own. I can also look back and know that when I tried to force my goals before they were ready is when I was actually moving backwards instead of forward.

I'm a firm believer in that what we think on and believe with all our hearts will one day come to pass. This has been written in both religious and self-help books over and over again. The Bible, Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, the list goes on and on. What we think about can also have the effect on us in that it makes us make brash or quick decisions that we believe are taking us to our intended goal, but in fact are leading us farther and farther away.

Some tips on keeping your goals in focus and moving forward and to keep yourself from making bad decisions:

• Only spend money on what you absolutely need and only when you need it. Spending money to buy the cart before you even have the horses only leads to frustration and maybe even your kids pulling you around in the cart while you're waiting on the horses to arrive.
• Don't make snap decisions. Any decision that is of a large-scale can most times wait a few days. Don't make a decision that you will regret and only have to undo. Take time to think about the pros and cons. Gather with other smart individuals that are knowledgeable in the area of what you're seeking advice on.
• Look for hidden opportunities. There are usually opportunities in every situation for advancement towards your life's goals. A lot of the best opportunities come in the way of a job layoff or unexpected illness in the family. Hard times tend to bring out the character and strength of a person quicker than comfort and money.

This is my first post on self-development so bare with me while I improve on my writing skills and content. I hope this brings a little hope and knowledge to all those that need it.

Victor